…to borrow a line from “All Star” by Smashmouth. It seems appropo given the magnitude of change the economy is demanding of people. Just this morning I did an interview on the Today Show about the growth of stay-at-home dads, and how couples can cope with the transition from a financial perspective.
One of the dads in the story talked about the loss of identity, which is a huge part of change (happened to me when I was laid off with 500 other people at my job back in 2001). There’s this weird black void you step into when you leave the old thing but don’t know what’s next.
My advice for these dads? Embrace the void, take time to hang with your kids, wallow in the mess, the frenzy, the tedium, the delight. You will look back on that downtime with a pleasure that most dads don’t get the opportunity to experience. At least that’s what my husband says, who stayed home for a bit with the kids while I worked full-time.
And though it sounds like a cliche, getting laid off really was the best thing that ever happened to my career. Here’s the Today Show clip.